Keep Searching for the Love You Deserve

Have you ever heard that you're "asking for too much" when

you speak about something you lack in a relationship? Do people tell you that you're never going to find a man/women to satisfy you're needs. That one or a couple defining characteristic(s) that your "perfect" spouse has to have doesn't exist? Yeah, everybody's going to tell you that and I don't want you to listen to them. Let's be honest (and not bratty) for a little while. No one is perfect, no one will have EVERYTHING you are looking for & there will always be problems in a relationship. All of these are inevitable. Instead, come up with 3-5 characteristics that won't be swayed.

For me, I'm very lenient for my other half. We all have preferences but I honestly don't have any defying physical characteristics. I don't say "you HAVE to be taller than me, dark skin, dimples, with waves" (I'm describing Kofi if you all were wondering lol) ! I need someone who listens to me and I really mean listen, not hear me. I need an understanding & open-minded person. If I cannot tell you about what I believe and not have you allow me to have my opinion, we will not workout. I will explain on this! Millennials have a bad habit (learned from baby boomers) of not allowing others to have their own opinion. If something's about how they grew up or how they perceive something you have no right to speak negatively about it. There is a difference in "opinions" and "facts". If someone is outright being ignorant than by all means correct that shit, we don't need anymore idiots out here (If we breed more Trumps I swear I'm going to lose my cool!). But, remember, learn to correct wrong behavior without belittling others. I read that somewhere so know it's not my own words. No one knows everything, we are supposed to expose everyone we meet to something new.

Back to the topic of hand! In addition to listening, understanding and being open-minded, I need someone who constantly shows me affection. I'm not even being funny when I tell you all that "Daddy Issues" are real. I feel as though a woman can be one of two ways when they grow up without a father present:

1. Constantly seeking affection from men

2. Outright denies that they need a man in any form.

For the longest time I was number 2. I honestly didn't even get a boyfriend until 8th grade. I wasn't worried about all that. Even then my sister and friend set that up and I wasn't really feeling him lol. Technically my first boyfriend was in 10th grade and even then I was uneasy about the idea. I've always been inquisitive so I would ask the question "what are boyfriend's/girlfriends for?" No one my age could ever answer my question. I just didn't feel the need to have one for the longest. As I grew older I started to realize we are working towards marriage (in my own right) and companionship is necessary for humans. Now I just need my boo all on me! Lol and if you aren't all on me I have a problem with that. Coming over, chilling, going out, communicating, all of those are regular relationship/friendship characteristics. Relationships in all aspects (neighbors, friends, acquaintances) all need those things I named. It's only when sex, intimacy, kissing, cuddling, etc are involved that becomes an evolved relationship and you become partners. Intimacy is beyond necessary for me. I need to be showered in it and I need to feel constantly loved. I use to think that I was "asking for too much" but I'm not. I will not compromise those 4 things and I am not afraid to tell someone that if you are denying me any of those I will go on about my business. I'm not in the liking of wasting time. If you can't give me what I need someone else will. You deserve all of the love you seek. We were all born without something and those are the things we seek the most in adulthood. Your past made you yourself & you must first accept that in order to move forward. I am here to tell you that it's okay to wait, it's okay to ask for what you want and it's okay to leave if you aren't satisfied. Take care of yourself because everybody else is too busy taking care of themselves. No one is perfect, nor are you. We are here to love & be loved!